Life is not meant to be perfect, it's meant to be real.
Of course we all know that - but somewhere in the back of our minds, we sit there waiting for everything to be just right. We feel kind of sorry for ourselves because it isn't yet...
We look at other people's lives, people we know and people who live worlds away that we are 'soft stalkers' of online, and we assume their lives are exactly as they portray in their pictures.
As much as we know that no one's life is perfect, we see what people show us (online or in the 'real world') and any gaps between posts, any information we don't know about them, we fill in with what we imagine their lives would be, based on their perfect posts.
We assume they 'woke up like this' - they DIDN'T.
We assume they don't use spray tan and stand on a special angle to look like that- they DID.
We assume they don't have to budget, take out the rubbish, cover their pimples, fight with their partner and clean up after their dog - they DO.
You're right, your life is not perfect.
There are things in your life that are totally unfair.
You don't look super great when you wake up in the morning - sorry!
That's because you're a real person.
In the words of Steven Furtick, 'The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes with everyone else's highlight reel."
Because I got sick of feeling crap about how imperfect my life is when I compare them to others online, I decided to take action.
So, every night before I go to sleep, I write down 3 things I'm thankful for from that day - somedays it's a big thing like, "my friend shouted my breakfast", some days it's average, like "I ate some really great strawberries today.' (there is a real food theme to my points)
Whatever it is, it will change your perspective from that of comparison to gratitude where good things are a bonus rather than a right.
Life's not meant to be perfect, but you choose whether you enjoy it or not.